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Do your words give you life

photo-61The Power of the Reframe! A lot of the industry leaders in personal development talk a lot about the tremendous impact that having an awareness of your thoughts can have in your life. I have also talked about this in my blogs several times as well. Over the past several weeks, I have noticed the impact that word choice can have on my perspective. For example – You are having a really bad day, nothing is going the way you expected. Your best efforts have been thwarted by traffic, bad luck, or other people’s bad juju. You come home exhausted and you exclaim, “Today was _________!” How do you fill in the blanks?

  • Crappy
  • Horrible
  • The WORST DAY EVER!

Or maybe you go a step further and make statements about your life because of your day, something like:

  • Nothing ever goes right for me!
  • My life sucks!
  • I can never catch a break!

All of those things may feel true for you in the moment … but there are some really powerful consequences to thinking and believing all of those thoughts. When you think about having a crappy day, you probably continue to feel bad even if the bad stuff has stopped happening. Let alone if you tell yourself, “Today was the WORST DAY EVER!” When you further project such powerful words onto your life and say things like “I can never catch a break!” Not only do you feel bad, but then your brain starts to look for evidence of how you just can’t catch a break. Then you are sitting stewing in your bad day, but also feeling pretty bad about your life in general.

While I have shared specific techniques and strategies to explore ways to combat unhelpful thinking patterns in practice, there is another and perhaps a simpler way.

Lately, I have been looking at my word choice. Let’s use our example above. You are having a really bad day, nothing is going the way you expected. Your best efforts have been thwarted by traffic, bad luck, or other people’s bad juju. You come home exhausted and you exclaim, “Today was really  _________ !” How do you fill in the blanks?

  • Challenging
  • Complex
  • Tricky

Think about how those words make you feel versus the ones I used before…  Do they add to the stress or pressure from your day or are they just adjectives to describe the less than ideal conditions you experienced? Here’s the thing – your thoughts create your reality. Your perception of what’s happening in your life influences EVERYTHING! If you are having a crappy day, you are going to feel crappy all day. But if you can take a step back and look at your situation from a compassionate perspective that doesn’t make you feel defeated, it can make the difference between a crappy day and a less than ideal morning.

I want to invite you to begin to examine the nature of your thoughts. When you are feeling not so great about your day, career, or relationship notice the energy that surfaces. See if you are using some emotionally charged or powerful words and try to reframe them in a way that is more objective, that helps you move forward or feel better about the situation.

Remember – we want the words that we use to others, but especially to ourselves to give us life, inspire us, and encourage us to do great things!

Tell me about your best reframe in the comments below!

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